The Art of Gratitude for a happier Mom and a happier child!
It is very surprising how a child, a toddler posses the art of gratitude. My young daughter, with just 2 ½ years expresses to me so much gratitude, and therefore, she makes lots of smiles. When I am doing something she wants or needs, even basic things as bathing, brushing, etc, she turns to me and says: “Mommy a present for you”. She has already given me her clothes, shoes, blankets, toys, favorite animals, the house we live in, the sky, the beach, and today she gave me her school. She was so grateful to me that I picked her up at school and devoted some minutes to chat with her classmates, that she looked at me, opened her arms, lifted her head and with a happy expression on her face, she gave me the whole school. And that gratitude makes me feel really special for her. Then, I came home thinking how easily she express her gratitude and now easy we forget to express it to ourselves, our beloved ones, or those who give us a hand here and there. I feel in her expression, her word and her body movements her gratitude to me, but better than that I feel this warm energy immersing in my heart and surrounding my whole body. So now I am understanding the true meaning of gratitude: “The capacity to project your thankfulness energy at a level that can warm the other person’s energy bodies, get a smile from them and create a deeper heart connection”.
So instead of saying “ Go nuts and be happy” I would say: “ Go be grateful and feel happier”.
Our children really posses the capacity to provide us with the deeper lessons for a better living.
We need to be connected to feelings like gratitude to our children, because it boosts our inner peace. It allows us to be aligned to the universe harmony and from there our responses to the child’s defiant attitude, impatient inquiries, or other tantrums, will be more under control in our tone of voice and the way we address them wiyh commands and requirements. Don’t think this is the seventh time of the day that he or she does this or that, live moment by moment and address every issue like if it is the first time. Children learn by repetition, yet they will learn faster, better and without trauma or fear to their parents if this repetition is made with love and peace. I grew up with a lot of fear to my father, by then I learned that I didn’t want my children to fear me, I wanted them to respect me because they love me and they care about me, but not because they feel fear. Fear and love is not a good mix, it shouldn’t be that way. Love and gratitude will end in respect, that is a better combination. So play you day for that one!
We should think, what should we be grateful to this person for? And from there express our gratitude. I am sure that we will have a positive answer for every person we know. Even though, those with whom the relationship was not what we expected. They are the ones who have provided us the personal laboratory to learn how to give without expecting something back, how to have our hearts always open indistinctively of their reactions. These are the opportunities in which we grow inside, we expand our understanding capacity and we create better tools to master the art of relationships. The practice of one art can lead us to another. If we learn from our children the art of gratefulness, we learn the art of relating to one another.